i've neglected to tell y'all i'm 2 weeks into summer school. i'm taking an 8 week course in statistics to fulfill a pre-req for the mba i am 90% sure i want to pursue. i'll have many other pre-reqs to fulfill before i can even start the graduate coursework since my undergrad degree had nothing to do with business, but slow and steady wins the race. right? hopefully. 2 hours of class after work, monday - thursday, is draining. fridays seriously never looked so sweet.
afd and i have been "talking" every day.. and i put it in quotes because it's more like bullshitting, shooting the shit, flirting, than real honest to goodness getting to know each other talking. that's the problem i guess when both of us are wiseasses. all this banter is all good and fun, but i'm hoping that we can proceed to more meaningful conversations. otherwise it'll get old really fast.
he called right when i got home from class, we chatted, and he said i should just come over, as he lives literally right across the highway. my first instinct was to think that was way too casual. i've fallen into the trap of when "dating" someone becomes "just hanging out" and it becomes a slippery slope of a relationship borne of convenience. or maybe i'm just old fashioned and prefer to have set plans and a set activity. but honestly, "come over at 9 pm to hang out" sounds too much like booty call to me.
maybe my brain has been fried from doing too much math. or maybe i'm right. all i really know is getting past the first date is harder than expected.
on the flipside, island boy is blowing up my phone to let me know jack johnson will be headlining a festival in sf in AUGUST... AUGUST! and should he get tickets for us? US? i found a way to get out of that but haven't quite said the words "i'm just not that into you" (diplomatically of course). i feel i owe him that and to pot, phd who has resurfaced on my phone somehow. but i just don't have the cajones to say those words out loud.
is it cowardly to just ignore people? rude? bad karma?
4 comments:
I think one of the hardest things about dating is when you realize you just aren't that into a person and have to break the news. However you do it, it never is easy and it never seems right. Good luck with that! :)
Gotta agree with teacherwoman.
You've just got to bite the bullet. It's like ripping off a band-aid.
dating isn't always as glam as it is in the movies...
I totally believe in bad karma. I was pretty rude/blew off this one guy and BAM! a rough (and long) cycle of jerks that did the same thing to me. I finally grew a set and firmly, but nicely, told a guy I was dating that I just wasn't feeling it. Next guy I met... JP. We've been together for nearly 2 years now.
I think honesty and kindness are in order to let this nice guy know that you're not into him. It's better he knows now.
As for Air Force Dude. Have a weird feeling about him. Call me old-fashioned, but after all this back and forth, he needs to ask you on a proper date.
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