so, like i said in my last post, as of yesterday i'm on match. and already it's a lot of work...and i'm not even talking about the writing my profile or choosing pictures part. it's the responding and stuff. the winks, the ims, the emails. i get everyone confused and it's not even that many dudes.but really, every profile i read was pretty generic, boring, or cliche. or just downright poorly written. not that i'm the grammar police or anything. but seriously, do people read books anymore? i was equally interested in the photos...not just for what they looked like, but for what images they chose. whether it looked like they took pictures of themselves with a camera phone all day (lo-ser), whether they had 10 shots of them bare chested (ick). whether they've traveled and whether they had pictures with family and friends. personality comes across much more in pictures, it's a shame so many people don't take better advantage of it.
anyway, enough about my rant. i really am going into this with a positive attitude. so far, so good. no crazy trolls....yet.
what this post was meant to be about was how easy it was to write my profile. (though obviously we'll have to see if it is at all effective) maybe i've had enough practice. or maybe i just know myself that much better. i guess that's what being close to 30 does for you. pushing 30 also means crows feet. as i noticed when selecting recent photos of myself. and surprisingly, it didn't bother me.
i've said it before, and i'll say it again. i think 30 is going to be a good year.
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I can't wait to be 30!! Seriously. I am sooo done with my 20's I just want it to be over with already LOL. The 30's are going to be awesome, I'm sure ;D
Embrace your 30's. I became suddenly "street wise" to men that's for sure. I've tried match.com & met a lot of great people. (and NOT so great people). Be selective! Be picky! Becareful!
What's your profile say?! Any good prospects yet? (&& by the way, I don't see any crows feet in that pic - it's definitely a keeper!) ;)
Man it's awesome to hear someone who's not complaining about being another year older. I mean it's just a number, it hardly sums up our accomplishments or what we're capable of!
Have fun with it (and be cautious)!
When my girlfriends and I were on the drought/meeting new people/dating jerks/repeat cycle and got frustrated with lots of first dates, we always used the mantra, "A girl's gotta eat." (And we literally meant eat. Dinner is usually involved on a first date. I've gotten some raised eyebrows on my true meaning of this...) :)
ahhh... I tried eharmony this winter and found it to be too much work. Dealing with some of the same things you are... but I was crazy busy and very picky. I hope it goes well for you! Keep us posted!
I don't think you need a fancy profile; just point them to your blog. There have got to be at least 10,000 30 something guys out there who would find you irrisistable. If any of them are intimidated by a woman that could beat them at 26.2 miles, they probably aren't right for you.
i DID THAT ONCE---IN MY 20'S. NO HOTTIES, BUT SERIOUSLY NICE GUYS, FOR ME.
I WAS PREGO FOR MY 30TH......ITS BETTER; WISER; BUT FOR ME I REALIZED I HAVE TO DO SOMETHING, SOMEHTING GREAT......and here I am
honey...just wait till 40.
you think 30 is gonna be great? (and it will be by the way)...
but whoa nelly...your 40's...wowza.
MPA!!!!!!
Sorry I've been a stranger. However, I'm no stranger to online dating. I've been on some site or the other on and off since 2001, and let me tell you: match.com is about the most generic of them all. If you want some interesting, progressive, well-read men, try Salon.com or The Onion.com or Nerve.com (all three used to be combined, and now I think all 3 use fastcupid.com as their umbrella site, if you will). I met the most interesting guys on those sites.
That said, I hate online dating. It's definitely fun for those in their 20s and early 30s, but once you become a non-commodity, aka, a woman over 35, you get no "hits." Of course, you will never reach the age I am and still be single. I'm a statisical anomaly, admittedly.
A few tips:
Cut to the chase super-quick. Do not do prolonged emails because the guy who looks good on paper often turns out to be quite different in person. Half the time I found myself going, "Um, WHO is this guy? Not the one I emailed, that's for sure."
My recommended approach is two emails max, then a phone call, and if that goes well (and sometimes they don't), meet up for coffee. Do NOT do dinner or even lunch or brunch. You want a quick escape if the guy is awful. Coffee on a Saturday or a beer on a weeknight does the trick b/c you can always claim that you've gotta be somewhere if things are not going well.
Good luck, my dear, and please send reports our way here on the blog.
-BCG
You're still a pup!
Cute pic... but alas, I'm married.
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